Mental health awareness DAY!

Hey Queens and Kings,

We know, We know it’s been over a month since we last posted on the ItsHerMelanin blog and NO NO NO we are not sorry because ItsHerMelanin has been working on some amazing projects to be produced over the next couple of years. Unfortunately we don’t want to tell you anything about the projects yet simply because everything is not finalised and lets be honest we all love surprises, though next weeks post will announce some developments about the web series project announced on insta last month …..ItsHerMelanin Insta !

Mental Health Awareness Dayy!

You guys don’t even know how excited we are here at ItsHerMelanin that mental health awareness is becoming so much more important than it used to be. It not only highlights the fact that mental health is real struggle for a lot of people, it also shines light on the fact that there is a whole community of people that are coming together to combat it. According to mentalhealth.org.uk :

Children and young people

  • 20% of adolescents may experience a mental health problem in any given year.
  • 50% of mental health problems are established by age 14 and 75% by age 24.
  • 10% of children and young people (aged 5-16 years) have a clinically diagnosable mental problem, yet70% of children and adolescents who experience mental health problems have not had appropriate interventions at a sufficiently early age.

Women and Men:

  • In England, women are more likely than men to have a common mental health problem and are almost twice as likely to be diagnosed with anxiety disorders.
  • In 2013, 6,233 suicides were recorded in the UK for people aged 15 and older. Of these, 78% were male and 22% were female.
  • 10% of mothers and 6% of fathers in the UK have mental health problems at any given time.
  • One in five (19.1%) women had CMD symptoms, compared with one in eight men (12.2%).

and according to a report on’Mental health survey of ethnic minorities’ undertaken by the University of Warwick, UK:

Ethnic minorities:

  •  Half (49%) of the respondents had been diagnosed with depression. Major differences exist across the groups with Asians experiencing more depression than Black groups. Rates of depression were highest amongst Indians (61%) followed by Pakistanis/Bangladeshis (55%) than Caribbeans (44%) and Africans (43%).
  • A third (31%) report a diagnosis of anxiety. The pattern of anxiety across the ethnic groups is the same as that of depression. Highest rates were found amongst Indians (44%) followed by Pakistani/Bangladeshis (35%), Caribbeans (26%) and Africans (17%).
  • Schizophrenia is the third most diagnosed mental health disorder with 16% of respondents having the condition. Interestingly, the ethnic differences are reversed with more Black people being diagnosed with schizophrenia than Asians. Amongst Caribbeans the rate is 23%, amongst Africans 19%, amongst Indians 14% and Pakistanis/Bangladeshis have a relatively low level of only 6%.Black respondents with a history of well-documented experience of racism continue to be affected by it. More than a quarter of Caribbean’s (28%) and almost a third of Africans (31%) have experienced racism in the past 12 months.
  • Black respondents with a history of well-documented experience of racism continue to be affected by it. More than a quarter of Caribbeans (28%) and almost a third of Africans (31%) have experienced racism in the past 12 months.

 

Yes that is a lot to take in and may make you start to feel down or angry because you ay be feeling ignorant about the fact that you didn’t even thing about all of this but heres a few tips on how you can help the awareness of mental health spread:

  1. DO IT BIG… start a social justice movement like us.
  2. Find active ways in which you can help raise money for charities that support people who are dealing with mental health problems.
  3. Last but not least simply start a conversation…word of mouth as we know is extremely powerful and it only takes two people to start a conversation.

 

What do I do if someone I or someone I know has a mental health problem? 

This is where it gets a little tricky because talking about mental health whether you are the person experiencing it or the loved one of someone experiencing it can difficult and some of us would rather ignore it than deal with it head on.

Help a friend ..

If you suspect someone is facing difficulties reach out to them, don’t make it into a big thing just start the conversation normally ‘how are you?’ or even ‘You don’t seem yourself, do you need a hug?’. I know it’s tempting when in an uncomfortable situation to try and make it funny but personally I would avoid making comments that turn mental health into something that is comedic. It could make the person become more isolated, it could even make them feel like they are making something out of nothing. What i’m trying to say is be yourself and most importantly be sensitive.

Help yourself…

If you are the person with a mental health issue or you think you could use some help because you suspect you could be facing some mental health issues then first know that you are not alone and there are people out there who are more than happy to help. If you feel you don’t have anyone close to turn to or you have turned to someone close and now you need more help I would recommend going to see a Doctor but if that’s too much for you or you feel as though a Doctor cannot help then I would recommend organisations like:

  1. The Samaritans offer emotional support 24 hours a day – in full confidence :Call 116 123 – it’s FREE Or email jo@samaritans.org.uk
  2.  Rethink advice and information line Monday to Friday, 10am-2pm for practical advice on:
  • different types of therapy and medication
  • benefits, debt, money issues
  • police, courts, prison
  • your rights under the Mental Health Act.

Call Rethink on 0300 5000 927 (calls are charged at your local rate).

3. Mind offer an information line to answer questions about:

  • types of mental health problem
  • where to get help
  • drug and alternative treatments
  • advocacy.

Call the Mind infoline on 0300 123 3393 (UK landline calls are charged at local rates, and charges from mobile phones will vary considerably). Or email info@mind.org.uk.

This applies to Uk residents but there are so much more oranisatitons world wide, so please seek the help you are entitled to. We are not professionals that can help you solve or explore your problems but if you feel as though you need someone to talk to please do not hesitate to drop us an email to: itshermelanin@outlook.com

Thank you so much for your continued and valued support and don’t forget to start a conversation about Mental health awareness today!

peace and love Tisha Jayy xxx

 

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Make an inspirational mood Board – Personal Therapy

Hey Queen and of course kings,

I’m back again with another post on the theme of Personal Therapy, but this week I will be talking about something that may not be common among Christians….inspirational mood boards. I can hear you asking ‘What’s an inspirational mood board?’ well let me tell you….

Inspiration Mood Board: An arrangement of images, materials, pieces of text, etc. Intended to evoke or project a particular style or concept. 

WHY?

As christians I know that we are supposed to leave everything in Gods hands and don’t get me wrong ultimately I know God and his plan is the only one that wins every time. BUT guess what guys? that does not mean we have to passive and unambitious. We must put ourselves in a place that makes us ready and able to see the best manifestation of his plan and an inspirational mood board is a great way to set foundations to getting to that place. As long as themes and goals on the inspirational mood board are things that will bring glory to God and are made real by scripture then I believe it would be a huge help to wake up every morning and see the board. The board could be a selection of prayers for different situations/battles, It could be career goals that you know would enable you to bring more Glory to God or It could simply be a board of reminders to study Gods word.

Made real by scripture?

If you haven’t noticed by now I have an emphasis on backing up anything I say on my blog by scripture and this should be the same for your mood board and in fact all areas of your life. This does not mean I manipulate the word to fit what I want to share with you guys and so also means that you guys shouldn’t manipulate the word either. It also means I do not use the word of God as a mask for what I want to do, I only post what I believe will help to bring glory to God and so should you in regards to making the mood board.

John 1:1 In the beginning was the word, and the word was with God, and the word was God.

I don’t even need to explain that further.

Where to start…

  1. Think of a theme. For example “Gods unconditional love for us”.
  2. Select scripture that states or expresses this.
  3. Find or draw pictures that illustrates this to you.
  4. Start sticking on your mood board.

So what are you waiting for?! Go crazy and get boarding!

Thank you for reading and don’t forget to come back next week.

Peace and love Tisha Jayy xxx

Journaling – Personal Therapy

Hey Queens and Kings,

I hope the vulnerability of last weeks post enabled you guys to see me in a different light and I hope it was an inspiring testimony on how personal therapy and my faith has helped me. This week I’m going to blog about something that may seem cliche, childish or even too time consuming but also something that I have done and still do, okay I will get to the point….. I’m talking about Journaling.

REALLY TISHA?

Yes really guys, It does not have to be a bright pink, fluffy, diamond incrusted Journal. It just has to be something you can write in without the fear of it being seen by others… so in other words It’s for yours and Gods eyes ONLY. A place for you to express how you are feeling in a safe and not so public way. I can hear you asking well how is this going to help me ? and more importantly how do I  even start?

 Getting started!

  1. Go and buy yourself a journal, personally I would buy a new one and not one you just have lying around because to me it represents a new start.
  2. Don’t think about it too much. If you are really stuck start with three things you are thankful for or three things you wish were different about today.
  3. Try to write at least once a week.

How is this going to help?

Well bare with me but I’m going to use the bible as a comparison. So the bible is a timeless collection of scriptures that to me is a testimony of the power of God, like I said bare with me. Even though your Journal is nowhere as important than the bible, it should be something that is still very important to you. Important but why? your journal will (overtime) as you continue to write be a testimony to how important the transformative process of journaling is/was to you. You will be able to look back at what you have written and see how much you have developed as a person, it will become almost a guide to getting to know yourself again and (when you are feeling down) a reassurance that you will get through the tough times.

Now this part of the blog post is for my born again Christians and those who are simply interested in christianity and the ways in which it can help you. At the moment I’m studying ‘The Whole Armour of God’ (boy do we all need it), I looked at:

Eph 6:12 ‘For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places.’

But how does this relate back to my journaling?

I related this back to my journaling because I viewed my Journal entries as prayers. I write as if I’m talking to God, as if I’m praying …I’m telling God about my day, giving thanks sometimes and even crying out to him. This naturally leads me to find comfort and strength in my bible, Which (the scriptures) becomes apart my armour against the enemy when I feel myself losing shalom. I hope you are getting the connection I am trying to make between God/bible and Journaling as gateway to building up your Armour.

God bless

Love and peace Tisha Jayy xxx

Staying in shalom -Personal Therapy

Hey Queens and Kings,

I hope all is going well and you enjoyed the few days we had of sunshine (back to the rain). The last time I posted on my blog I was talking about guarding your peace and I mentioned staying in Shalom. So just to recap staying in Shalom is a frame of mind, imagine still water. When a stone gets thrown in still water it unsettles it for a moment but as soon as that moment is over the water remains still…get it? Basically staying in Shalom is an active process that I believe we should do in order to better control how our mental health affects us. So if you haven’t already guessed the next four/five posts will be about ‘Personal therapy’, processes/frame works you can follow in order to help when mental issues get a bit too much.

Wow… Mental health?! 

Some of you will be like hold up? I came hear to get the good word and Tisha is talking about Mental health…..She’s putting things in my head. Let me stop you there! Just incase you didn’t see the Youtube videos this channel is a page that aims to promote positive mental health with the good word alongside. Having struggled with my own mental health I feel like its my duty to spread anything I can that may help you guys personally or help you guys help someone you know. Now mental health as whole is a topic nobody seems comfortable with acknowledging, it’s that one eyed puppy left in the kennel; we know it exists but we don’t like to give it attention. I know this is factual when talking about some Black communities and Women it’s either we don’t like talking about it or we our mental health is not taken seriously… but those two topics are for another time and separate blog posts.

Let’s get a little personal and real!

I suffer from mental health issues …SHOCK…HORROR…CALL THE CRAZY POPO…serious Tisha serious. I suffer from having low points (everyone does to an extent), similar to depression but by my description not as severe and I also suffer from social anxiety; I don’t like big crowds or new people (writing about it is a weird feeling for me but hey). If you are family/friends or even somebody that I work with you may be thinking ‘Tisha? really not the Tisha I know’, well i’m sorry to burst your unrealistic bubble but yes the Tisha you know. The reason why i’ve not really told people is because I studied drama at secondary school, college and university this helped me to mask all the rubbish I was feeling, I mean sometimes I just couldn’t function but I quickly learnt how to manage those moments. I recognize my triggers and know when i’m falling into my low points/ when the social anxiety is getting a bit too much and so know what I can do to fight those MOFOS. Though my first point of call even before I was saved was my bible; simply because I found it comforting and it always without fail helped to calm me down or lift my spirits.

My personal mental health is also the reason why I want to become a drama therapist as drama helped me and so many people that I know and even a few people that I work alongside. I have to say that I am one of the lucky people who suffer from mental health (sounds crazy but bare with me), some people who suffer from mental health issues do not have support from friends and family and even though most of my family and friends don’t know about my mental health issues they are still such an amazing support system form me.

How I stay in Shalom….or stay level headed when things get a bit much.

Escape from the city or simply go where there is nuff green tings aha! So when my head feels heavy and i need to clear my mind I will walk and put my headphones. I also learnt how to just not think about anything during these walks/escapes.

Though this time I took it to the extreme and went on a mini trek through Bradgate park.

It was beautiful, peaceful and the company was not bad either.

When you learn the power of not thinking of anything, the big things become micro. – TishaJayy

Love and Peace Tisha Jayy xxx

Perception of Self- Guarding your Peace.

Hey Queens and my Kings,


 It has been a few weeks (Sorry) since we last met on this wonderful yet addictive social media world. I hope you’ve been good and this week has been productive in whatever season of you’re life you are in now. I was sitting in church on Sunday and Pastor was preaching some home truths (as always) that I had to share with my ‘It’sHerMelanin’ family. The word was about not letting external issues/people/situations unsettle you internally, not giving things more power than they need. In other words not feeding the fire with more gasoline.

 Before we get into this topic I want to say I am extending last months topic on for this post because I believe God wanted me to share the message I heard on sunday. Okay lets do this….

what do you mean by my peace?

When I talk about guarding your peace I am talking about the very thing that keeps you level headed, that state of mind, body and spirit that aligns you with the characteristics God wants us to have as his children. To love one another, to love unconditionally, to practice peace rather than destruction and know how to respect ourselves because of the God justified confidence we should have and thats just to name a few.

The war inside

You know them moments when something really gets you vex (mad) and you’re debating whether you should be plain cruel and cuss two bad words or whether you should be Gods child and smile and walk away? This is one example of the war inside, the other example is to do with faith and whether you have any or not. With all the injustices going on around the world it would be so easy to lose faith in Gods plan, but God knows why what’s happening is happening and so he will see us through as he sees fit. In John 14:1 after Jesus predicts Peter’s denial he say’s ‘Let not your heart be troubled; you believe in God, believe also in me’, this is Jesus saying bad times are going to have to happen in order for the good times to come and they will not compare, do not worry just have faith and all will be well. This is something that we have to practice today as Christians …have FAITH no matter how bad the circumstance may seem (or how vex you get).

Staying in shalom

Most of us know Shalom as a greeting or a well wishing but the way my Pastor explained it was that it was a state of mind and state of being that Christians should be encouraged to keep.

‘keep your heart with all diligence, For out of it spring the issues of life’     -Proverbs 4:23

Shalom means to always be at peace, always protect your peace and never be quick to anger. This was something that really stuck with me because whilst there are people/things that will test our peace we must always be in control of how we react.

Now this weeks post is short and sweet but I do hope this weeks post was helpful to you guys.

Peace and love TishaJayy

 

Perception of self – My purpose 

Hey Queens and of course kings, 

First of all sorry this ones late, no I’m nota out go MIA. It has been my moms birthday and we had celebrations and I’ve just been focusing on that but we back yo! So this weeks post is about purpose, our purpose can come in different shapes and sizes during different seasons of our lives. I believe purpose has two strands to it:

1. Our main purpose (God given).

2. How we practice it in the world, for example through a job or in my case a social change movement.

1. Our main purpose (God given) …

Now as a born again developing Christian I have to make you sure that you know (if you are born again) that our purpose is to spread the word of God and to encourage and inspire non-believers to turn to Christianity and seek a relationship with God #godsarmy. In the second epistle of Paul the apostle to the Corinthians he states ’20Now then, we are embassadors for Christ, as though God were pleading through us: we implore you on christ’s behalf be reconciled with God.’ 2Cor 5:20. So in order to fulfil our God given purpose of spreading the word we must really submit ourselves to God, which is something I believe helps us to become reconciled with God. Submitting to God 100% is not an easy task to do, I will be honest here and say submission is something I struggle with but I will always keep on trying and be sincere in doing so. Now you’re asking but how do I submit? This something that your church should help you with and if you don’t have one then please try to find one. I did not have a home church for a while and didn’t think I needed one but believe me since I’ve had one my growth game has been on point. 

Let’s say you don’t have a church or maybe do not feel as though you can approach anyone at church for number of reasons (that might be a sign to find a new church). We are going to start with the basics the 10 commandments! Open your bible and study them, keep in the mindset of I will shape my new life around them and not I will keep my old life but maybe ecourporate one or two. This will encourage you to go through your life with a fine toothed comb, you will want to change what you take in from the world and also what you put out. Those around you, yourself and most importantly God will start to see those changes and will love them. Although there will be some people in your life that mock you, not like the new change and/or start to distance themselves from you, just remind yourself why you are doing it. Let them talk, let them mock and be confident in the child of God your are becoming. In regards to the distancing themselves from you this can be very hard because it could be anyone from family members and childhood friends to colleagues, again let them but always wish them well and remember God may be bringing them out of your life in order to make room for you to work on his behalf or to bring blessings. You will also see more tests come your way because the devil will start to panic and throw things at you that he thinks will make you stumble and sometimes they won’t be in plain sight the will be disguised as what you desire or even dressed up in Christianity. Pray, seek scripture and guidance from the Holy Spirit/ mentors at your church. Now let’s move onto point two….

2.How to practice it int the world….

Life keeps on moving and eventhough God lets us have free will there will always be opportunities to fulfil your God given purpose. It could be through a career choice like becoming a writer, therapist, teacher, nurse, pastor, social worker and it could also be through social situations like a simple conversations, a work do or a trip to the shop. To help you understand I haven two examples of how I feel I am fufiling my God given purpose. The first is through ‘it’s her melanin’ I created ‘it’/ her melanin’ in order to support the positive mental health issues of women using Gods word in order to help tackle those issues, I want spread the word of God as a testimony against any mental health problems that devil throws our way. The second example is a charity run I did, on the day I was feeling very low and became very anxious about doing the race but in the bible it says to be selfless, charitable and seek justice thus me in both examples fulfilling my god given purpose. Both of which stem from things I enjoy or talents God has given me.

End point….

God gives us one purpose and many gifts that he knows will enable us to fulfil our purpose but he also gives us the freedom of free will. Unfortunately some of use this free will to go against God completely but it is up to us as Christians to help those who do so to refrain from sin and seek a relationship with God and fulfil their purpose.
Peace and light 

TishaJayy xxx

Perception of self – forgiveness 


Hey Queens and Kings, 

I’m back again as promised with another post and this week as there have been tensions around the world between black communities and the police I thought the topic of forgiveness was what we needed. Too often we are guilty of stunting our own progression in Christ and in the world with our stubbornness when it comes to forgiveness. How many of you have taken years to forgive yourself or others ? And then as soon as you do it you are kicking yourself for not doing the deed sooner. When it comes to others, forgiving them can be so hard mainly because we put so much faith in them and not God that when their human nature shows up in the form of hurt we try and feel some time of way. If you don’t practice the amazing gift of forgiveness you have no right to feel some type of way. 

Forgiving ourselves

This comes to mind with myself, especially being fairly early on in my faith. As you are developing and studying Christianity you start to want to change certain habits and traditions you take part in that are of the world. This can be anything from changing what you consume from social media to personal issues, once you strive to change them they become even harder to filter out/resist. This can make you start to become unhappy because you feel as though you do not see any progression whilst internally battling so hard, this is when I turn to my bible and look for reassurance that I’m capable of forgiving myself and I’m on the right tracks. Ephesians 1:7-9 says:  “7In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, according to the riches of his grace. 8which he made abound toward us in all wisdom and prudence, 9having made known to us the mystery of his will, according to his good pleasure which he purposed in himself.”. These verses come from letters the apostle Paul wrote to the Ephesians who were faithful to Jesus, do you see where I am goin with this? Just because you are a Christian and want to be faithful to God does not mean you will not sin. God only wants progression not perfection, Jesus was perfect and thus he was the only priceless gift that could pay for our sins meaning we cannot compare to perfection by his standards. To summarise my point about forgiving ourselves, God believed in us that much that he sent his only son to suffer, so how dare we not forgive ourselves if God can. This leads into my next subheading…

-also see John 1:9

Forgiving others

Now we all know when someone has done something to us that is wrong our bruised pride stops our forgiveness from pouring onto them. Let me reassure you that the energy you take up not forgiving someone and feeling bitter towards them could be put to better use. God forgave the Isrealites countless times eventhough they were hard of hearing and ungrateful. The accounts in Exodus made me understand how Gods grace works and so taught me how my forgiveness should easily be given, without having the condition of personal gain. God forgave them countless times regardless of the doubts they had in him eventhough he provided what they NEEDED all the time. Sometimes God brings hurt in order for us to learn and evolve into who he created us to be, God will never bring a storm that lasts forever, it is either a lesson or a blessing. A couple of bible references come to mind when forgiving others: the first is in Matthew 6:12 (the model prayer, our father): 12 and forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors”.  This verse highlights the fact that if we refuse to forgive those who do us wrong how do we expect God to forgive us. The second verse is in Matthew 18:22 (the parable of the forgivng servant): 21 Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven.”. So dont be silly and on the 490th time of forgiving someone say “well that’s it!”, this parable is used to say be limitless with your forgiveness like our God. 

– please read the parable to get the full juice from my point. (Mathew 21)
The rewards

It’s simple, in taking on the character traits of God we become more and more like the person he designed us to be. Though if we do not try to take on these traits our growth will either be minimal or cease all together. I know, I know you’re think but “Tisha this person did this and that”, I’m sorry but you have to really submit yourself and realise the bigger picture and decide on whether you want to please the Lord you claim to follow.

I hope this post has given you a starting point on how to practice eforgiveness Gods way.please stay safe and keep all of the protests peaceful.

Peace and love TishaJayy xx

Perception of self – Identity in christ.

Hey Queens and Kings,

So if you saw the last post you will know that this month here at ‘It’s her Melanin’ is Perception of self month but before we get started on that topic I want us to open with a prayer. As you should have seen the killings of black lives in the USA is something that is on the rise and there seems to be a no justice as an outcome…

Lord, I pray that as we go through such times as these that we are reminded of how we as christians are to seek out justice and peace. I pray that the families directly involved and us as a people are able to be strong and still show love and compassion, that we do not let our anger and fear mask how the holy spirit is trying to lead us, that we continue to find comfort in the scriptures and are able to use them as guidance when we are unsure on what to do next. Lord put your hand upon this world and show us how we are meant to treat each other in the way that you unconditionally love us. Amen

It is so important that we come together and stand up for what we believe in and that we use smart tactics to create a healthy dialogue between them and us in order to become we.

Perception of self

As you know ‘It’s her Melanin’ is aimed at young girls and women, so this will be who I am addressing in this post but that does not mean if you are a young boy or man you should stop reading. Let’s begin…  Young girls and women how you perceive yourself (below your faith) can determine how you live your life and sets the foundation for your adult life. So many factors play a huge part of how we perceive ourselves as women including physical appearance.

Is it the media’s fault?

The media tells us that we are objects for consumption and that we should look a certain way. Allowing women to be stereotyped as only having value If they meet westernised beauty standard of being female. This usually includes having fair skin but not too pale, clear skin, long hair but not too long, curves but in the ‘right’ places, tall but not too tall, natural beauty but wear make-up etc thus creating an ‘illusion’ of what beauty actually is. Do you get my point? the list of things I just said put too much pressure and high expectations on young girls and women. This can develop negative mental health issues which in some cases could have been avoided. Personally my own physical perception of myself was something that I did not struggle with until the last few years, I was finishing University and felt like ‘Tisha the student’ had to become ‘Tisha the adult’ but that still did not help me with who I was. If anything it made things worse and I started to feel lost thinking that the way I looked had an impact on who I was, Bearing in mind this was before I was born again. Questions that started to arise were:

  • Who am I?
  • What do I actually stand for?
  • Where do I begin to find myself?
  • How can I change the way I look in order to have a better perception of myself?

Identity in christ! 

After being baptised and as I continue to study scripture I gain new heights of confidence in my physical appearance that are not boastful or showy but are ‘I may look in the mirror and want to change what I see but God has made me exactly how I’m meant to be’ which allows me the freedom to be comfortable with who I am as long as it is in line with what/who Christ wants me to be. Scripture that helps me with my perception of who I was, the way I look and claiming my identity in christ are:

Genesis 1:27- ’27 God created man is his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.’

Jeremiah 1:5 – ‘5 Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart;…’

Colossians 3:1-3 – ‘1 Since then, you have been raised with Christ, 2 set your hearts on things above, not earthly things. 3 For you died, and your life is know hidden with Christ in God.’

These verses have different stories/explanations behind them but still give me comfort and reassurance in this metaphorical journey I am at the start of. They along with other study points have helped me to be active in perusing the plan has for me. Just so we are clear it did not happen over night and I sometimes stumble but now I feel more equipped to handle the stumbling blocks. A mentor at my church said “God is the ultimate standard, Christ is our connection to God, the spirit is our guidance and the bible is a testimony and handbook for us to follow and bear witness to”.

Round-up

I really hope this will help with anyone who is struggling with who they are and that finding your identity in Christ will be something that you pursue. I would also like to end on the fact this is something that I have taken from my own study sessions and you may come across something different which is ok.

Peace and light

TishaJayy xx

Things to come…

Hey Queens and of course Hey kings,

So its been a minute but if you follow ALL of my social media outlets (linked at the end of this post) then you should know that Yes, ‘It’sHerMelanin’ has been very quiet but the work rate has been 110%. I’ve been working on so many new projects for you amazing people and I wanted to execute all of them properly, without having dry spells in between (Let the glow up season begin). Just to make it easier (for all of us) I am going to break a few things down.

 The Blog

Phew! Because you are reading this you know ‘It’sHerMelanin’ has it’s own official blog. This will be the main outlet, the hub so to say of ‘It’sHerMelanin’.

You will see all of the projects I work on be showcased here and there will also be things like casting calls for those aspiring actors and actresses, music request for those of you that would like your music to be featured on ‘It’sHerMelanin’ content and so much more collaboration opportunities for creatives who aim to make a positive social impact on the current and future generations. I know, I Know you’re like Tisha?! Cut to the juicy bits….Content?

 Basic formula

First things first every month here at ‘It’sHerMelanin’ will have a specific theme for example July’s theme is ‘Perception of self’. This theme will then be broken down into specific topics of which will be discussed in weekly blog posts. Disclaimer: these posts will be faith based, which means they will be led and supported by scripture, bible scripture to be exact as I am Christian. Don’t think I did not just see you roll your eyes, listen you may not be born again but I can guarantee you God’s word will speak to you in some shape, way or form, so please just give it a chance. To those of you who are born again here is another disclaimer: These posts are how I understand the word, if you feel like I’m not hitting the point correctly then please correct me but do not bring any negative spirits to this movement.

 The Tube of You (YouTube)

Now this is where getting out of my comfort zone and giving it all to God will really be put into play because I have so many web-series written, short films I am producing and poetry to put out into the world of YouTube that I honestly don’t know where to start. Any crazy creative like myself will know how each piece of work you produce is like a piece of your soul and so putting it out there and letting it leave your comfort zone can seem like a daunting task.

But

As a born again Christian woman and after consulting with God I have to know that know matter the outcome and as long as I am glorifying his name then I am doing what I am supposed to be doing. Thus (who even says thus) I have release the content I create. In other words watch out for September, Something great is about to be created and brought into your attention.

TishaJayy

If I were you one of my main question would be but TishaJayy? A who she be? (that’s patios if you didn’t know…google it bruh). Well to answer your question I’m just a black, British, Caribbean, queen getting her black girl magic on and changing her mess into a God given purpose. I’m a 22 year old as of today (yaaas it’s my birthday), who learned how to love herself and God, both of those things were a struggle even though they were both installed in me from a young age but I’d like to think that I’ve made leaps of progress. Some people seem to think that born again Christians are judgmental hypocrites, nope that’s not the case at all (there are some, yes but no more than in your circle of non-Christians). My testimony is one that I never thought I’d share at all, as I was a person that didn’t like to share the things that I believed made me weak but little did I know those things (anxiety, low points, low self esteem, no knowledge of self and having no relationship with God because of the sinful life I was living) would actually be the very experiences that would equip me to making ‘It’sHerMelain’ a reality.

 

Those experiences led me to become baptized, which created this love for God and in actual fact made my purpose a lot clearer to me. I was baptized on the 13th of March 2016, so I am very much a baby in my Christianity walk and when I stumble I know Gods like ‘poor ting, poor chile’ (yes, God was just talking in patios). This does not mean I wont feel like enough, it means because I know the holy spirit is guiding me every step of the way that I’m good, in fact I’m blessed. I will stumble and I will struggle but my intentions will be in the right place and as long as my focus is on God I’m in the right lane.

 Let’s round it up

I think I’ve covered about three different topics in this post but hey what you gonna do!? The projects I have in the pipeline for this movement with Gods grace are going to be so amazing and I hope they help at least one person with unlocking their positive mental health potential. Okay, I will stop typing now… thank you for taking the time out to read and if you made it this far ‘you the real MVP’ ahha.

 

Peace and light

 

TishaJayy xx

 

 

 

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From my Soul to my heart (you)…

Dear my heart,

The dream in It’s adolescents…

So ‘It’s Her Melanin’ is certainly in It’s beginning stages and I am so dedicated to making it work for all of you, my beautiful audience. That means that in these early days there may be quiet periods but that does not mean I am not working unbelievably hard. Everyday I dedicate time to working on ‘It’s Her Melanin’, sometimes it’s before work or after and sometimes It’s even during my breaks that I’m thinking about ways I can make this movement have a positive impact on the correct audience.

Faith

God has been testing me lately and I know it may seem a cliche to say but he has shown me how determined and strong of a black woman I really am. There have been so many times before being saved and being in similar situations I would have said “this is too much my dreams can wait, I will just focus on my job” but I haven’t. Instead I’ve prayed, took a deep breath, taken a look at all the messages and support I’ve received in such a short time and I marched through the troubles.

No it has not been easy but with God by my side it has meant that the burdens have been passed onto him and because he loves me and I have blind faith in him, I’m always reminded that everything is going according to his plan. Thus even though I find it hard to see the bigger picture, God has already written and so It’s my job to put it into action.

Believe in yourself baby!

I know that God believes in me but know It’s my turn.

Growing up as a minority you get told certain illusions through the media, educational institutions and sometimes within your personal circles. The main illusion that you are told is that ‘YOU ARE NOT GOOD ENOUGH’, this can create a basis for self-hate. Hating yourself for being a minority, whether that minority is being a woman or being a person of colour or any other social minority group is something that really upsets me but also something that I understand. Thankfully I also had what I like to call positive ‘role models and identity enablers’, my family is full of women of different shades of colour who have their own identity and sense of empowerment. This was passed down to me and don’t get me wrong I’ve looked in the mirror many a times and wished something about my looks or gender was different because of the inequalities I was facing but as I got older I learnt that the very things I wanted to change were the very things that made me TishaJayy, a beautiful black woman who’s deeply creative and wild mind could not be denied to the world.

Believing in myself is something that I am always working on but also something that is also very deeply rooted in the cracks of my mind and the darkness of my soul. If I did not believe in myself none of this would have happened, none of this would have been my reality. I would have been doing my 9-5 and still day dreaming about how I’m going to make ‘It’s Her Melanin’. Instead I know that ‘It’s Her Melanin’ will be a movement that will help women of colour over come mental health issues. It will help women who have faced mental health demons which I have faced and continue to face to say “I see you but I do not give you life. You want me to hate what makes me truly me and I will not let you worm your way into my life”. It will give our daughters, nieces and younger sister the chance to love themselves before the world say they can’t and it will open the eyes of the ignorant.

My challenge to you…

I want you to pretend you have the future you desire, I mean it close your eyes and see it, smell it, taste it and give thanks for it. Now see the obstacles you had to overcome, Can you see them yet? Write them down in RED. Now next to them write how you will overcome them. The overcoming may take weeks, even months and sometimes years but write it down. Now say how much you want it, Who will benefit and dare to imagine how many people will be inspired by the you that ACHIEVED THEIR DREAMS.

NOW, GO AND DO IT .

Remember that you are in charge of your own happiness and only you (Strengthened by God) can make it a reality. Do not be afraid of hard work, do not be afraid of sacrifice but be afraid of not living your true life.

Love from my soul.DP