My practice

Hey Queens and Kings,

I hope you’re all well and looking after yourselves. You know the drill grab your ginger bear yo and get comfy. Last weeks post was all about the stigma surrounding therapy and if you missed it feel free to go and have a read, don’t worry I will wait for you ūüôā

Yass girl, you’re back, so how was the post? not bad? too much? either way I hope you appreciate the grind. Let’s get down to the post!

My practice?!?

So, when I was planning this post (in JAN) I naively thought I’d be soooo clued up as to what my personal practice as a trainee Dramatherapist would be… oh how silly of me to think such wild things aha. One, I have had no clients on my placement as of yet which will be explained in more detail in May, two I’m starting to realise that being a Dramatherapist means that your practice will continuously evolve and three, one minute I KNOW WHAT IM DOING BUT THEN THE NEXT MINUTE I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT I AM DOING and I think I’m speaking for most of the people on my course HA! All of this made it incredibly hard to write this post because I’m sitting here thinking I have no content, which made me think hmmm …lets start with the basics:

  1.   How does a session work? Dramatherapy sessions have a basic out line (opening ritual- warm up, games, main content, closing rituals- cool down and reflection or check out).
  2. What does it look like? Dramatherapy sessions can either be on a 1:1 basis or group settings.
  3.  Who is Dramatherapy for? Dramatherapy can be for anyone.

Trial and error in therapy?!?!

You may be thinking ‘Say what now? Tisha how can you afford to make mistakes when talking about someones therapy sessions?!’. To answer your question(s), so that big mistakes are not made during my qualified practice, my course offers multiple chances for us to do facilitations of a dramatherapy sessions; this helps with confidence to explore our practice and simply gives us a chance to learn off of each other. we get to learn basics that will keep the sessions safe and also learn how to support our clients in a professional yet understanding way.

This is a short one!

Yup, guys I’m really about to finish up this post already. This weeks post has been so hard but I guess this is apart of the process and I promised to let you in on all aspects. I’ve not had much practice out on placement because we have to sort out the young adults time tabling and apparently a month is not enough time to do so. Can you hear the hint of frustration!? Like I mentioned before there will be more about my placement difficulties in a later post but for now my queens and kings, thank you for reading and see you next week.

Peace and love TishaJayy xx

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Stigma Surrounding Dramatherapy

Hey Queens and King,

I hope you are all blessed and ready for a new week, before you read this blog check out last weeks blog here! Great you’re back. You should know the drill by now, grab your ginger beer and lets get to it!

The stigma surrounding Mental health

First of all lets get to grips with the word stigma, I feel like a lot of people throw it out there but don’t actually know what it means. According to dictionary.com it is ‘a mark of disgrace or infamy; a stain or reproach, as on one’s reputation’ and in medical terms ‘mental or physical mark that is characteristic of a defect or disease: eg. the stigmata of leprosy’. So basically stigma means to attach a negative characteristic to something, in our case mental health.

Studying to become a Dramatherapist has made me realise that having a mental health issue is more common than not. Mentalhealth.org.uk tells us that ‘1 in 6 people in the last week experienced a mental health problem’ and yet I hear people close to me and those on social media mock serious mental health issues, they say things like ‘get over it’ or a more common one ‘it’s not that deep’, I even hear people use terms such as ‘you’re depressing’ to describe people. My point is that we need to be made more aware of effects that mental health can have on people across the world and to dismiss someone who is trying to reach out to us can be very harmful.

Some media can intentionally and unintentionally take away the seriousness of mental health issues and they do this by adding humour, over dramatising real life mental health issues or by  making it seem as if people with mental health issues cannot function in western society. People having mental health issue(s) is something that society as a whole needs to be talking about more, we need to be properly educated and we also need to know where we can find resources that will help us.

Stigma surrounding seeking help from professionals

Seeking help from your loved ones, let alone professionals can seem daunting, you may feel as if you will be judged or even laughed at but don’t be ashamed of trying to do something about your mental health issue(s).¬†There are so many trained professional that can help you with, not only your mental health issue but also help you with asking your family for support. Shade throwers, I can hear you saying ‘bruhh why so serious?’ but I cannot explain enough how important positive tools are in helping you to explore your mental health, these are key ingredients are paramount to aiding the management of a 21st century lifestyle. If you have not yet got any help or just need something to get you through the gap inbetween therapy sessions here are some tools that I thought of last year (journaling, staying in shalom and making a mood board). At the end of this post I will add some links that are 24 hour help lines.

Believing stigma

As well as not understanding how powerfully our mental health can effect our lives, we do not understand the power of BELIEVING stigma. Believing stigmas attached to mental health can lead to years of unnecessary isolation, fear and torture. I don’t know who this post is for but as mentioned before there are trained professionals who are just as passionate as me when it comes to killing the stigma surrounding mental health.

What next TishaJayy?

So, queens and kings I have briefly and I mean briefly discussed the STIGMA surrounding mental health and I hope this has sparked something in you that is forward thinking when it comes to the positive management of mental health. For those of you that believe they have mental health issues I would strongly recommend that you go and see your local GP. If this is a little difficult I would suggest you go through a helpline (UK):

1. The Samaritans offer emotional support 24 hours a day – in full confidence.

  • Call 116 123 – it’s FREE

Or email jo@samaritans.org.uk

2. You can call the Rethink advice and information line Monday to Friday, 10am-2pm for practical advice on:

  • different types of therapy and medication
  • benefits, debt, money issues
  • police, courts, prison
  • your rights under the Mental Health Act.

Call Rethink on 0300 5000 927 (calls are charged at your local rate).

3. The Mind infoline

Mind offer an information line to answer questions about:

  • types of mental health problem
  • where to get help
  • drug and alternative treatments
  • advocacy.

Call the Mind infoline on 0300 123 3393 (UK landline calls are charged at local rates, and charges from mobile phones will vary considerably). Or email info@mind.org.uk.

Finally, Queens and kings I really do hope this helps you in some way no matter how small or big, peace and love TishaJayy xx

For more info: https://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/

Faith vs Therapy

Hey Queens and Kings,

First of all, if you have not caught my first post then I suggest you click here and read on baby! ¬†Don’t ignore me now, go ahead I will wait for you…promise.

Oh you’re back…hey there hope you liked it and if you already read last weeks post, you be winning! Make sure you’ve grabbed your ginger bear this ones going to be good…

Faith

No matter what religion you belong to, no matter what way of life you adhere to and no matter what your opinions are on either subject, lets all agree that we all have faith in something. It could be in God, it could be in yourself or it could even be the faith you put in the people you care about most. Shade throwers don’t act like you don’t know what I’m talking about because you do, if you like let me just give you an example: you like food right? and you have faith that food will sustain you ? Okay now the shade throwers are on board let me carry on.

Personally my faith lies in a lot of things but ultimately, my faith is in my relationship with God; yes for those who don’t believe in God it may sound completely stupid and delusional but it’s my life, let me live yo! Not all the time but most of the time my faith in God as my refuge, provider and pops allows my stress and anxiety to be reduced a hell of a lot and also helps me to be bold, humble and happy with being a christian. The more I pray (talk to God) the more my faith in him grows and the more I have faith in God the more I WANT pray to him. Now WANT is the key word here, even though I see physical results from faith and prayer (getting an amazing placement at the last minute and my family coming through hard REALLY HARD times to say the least), the main reason I pray before I leave my bed everyday and have two praise sessions on my way to and from work, placement or uni is because I genuinely WANT a relationship with my pops. Let me quickly give you a testimony just in case you didn’t know I’m black, I’m also on social media, I have known and gotten used to death from a very young age and I’m a christian. The amount of rubbish I see on a daily basis from racist whether it be on an ignorantly micro level (institutional – in a lot of institutionalised groups I am still, in 2017, the minority and I’m talking the only black person) or at a macro level (seeing police officers unlawfully stop and search people I Know, being verbally racially attacked, to seeing other black people being killed and tortured for no other reason than having the very skin colour I do), If I did not have my faith I would not be the strong mentally, physically and emotionally black woman I am today.

So, when I previously said jokingly, let me live yo! In reference to my faith, for me it’s a lot more serious, If didn’t have my face I would still be doing things that are not me, I would still have a low opinion of myself as a black person and as a woman and I also believe ‘ItsHerMelanin’ would not have been born. So, to me my faith in God is my core and what keeps me, unapologetically me!

P.s before you let your preconceived notions of christians that have done you wrong cloud your judgment of me, get to know me.

You may need another can of ginger beer by now…

Therapy

I feel like this one will be even harder, a lot of people hear the word of therapy and quickly reply with ‘there’s nothing wrong with me, I don’t need that’ or when there is something that stereotypically seems like therapy ‘gold’, people will say ‘what happens in my house stays in my house’. Both statements are ones that can be so damaging to personal growth. Don’t get me stared on when people hear the term ‘Dramatherapy’ they automatically create an image of a group of misfits being misfitty (shade throwers, I create words so hush) or they look at you blankly and you can just hear them thinking ‘What the heck is that?!’

Dramatherapy (when done properly) is a safe and contained exploration of anything from emotions, everyday situations, traumatic experiences and relationships using drama techniques and It can be done on a 1:1 basis or within a group. Now as a part of my course I have to be in therapy which I was really excited about and still am excited about. Therapy has become something that I have faith in, yes faith, because it helps me be active in evolving into who I am mean to be. It helps me to reflect on myself, accept who I am and appreciate the process, don’t get me wrong it can be hard and evoke emotions that may be painful but it is worth it. There are so many different types therapies out there but to name a few there is of course Dramatherapy, artstherapy, musictherapy and dancetherapy, these are all creative arts therapies as they use other mediums in sessions and are not restricting by only using talking strategies which some people may prefer (though talking therapies can be very beneficial for some people, it just depends on what you as an individual prefer).

But Tisha which do you prefer? c’mon dish the dirt!

Now I know you will either be for one or the other, but for me it’s a lot more complex than that, I can see you all rolling your eyes because you know what’s coming…. which one wins for you Tisha therapy or faith? To put it plainly my faith is apart of my therapy and Dramatherapy has allowed me to mature in my faith. Obviously nothing comes before my faith in God but therapy is also major in what works for me. If it was not for Dramatherapy, among other things I would not still be going to church, in fact I don’t think I would have lasted this long on my course if it wasn’t for my faith in GOD. In short they are both ingredients in my infinity.

What happens when faith runs low and therapy is jarring? 

This part of the blog is easy, In regards to faith I have a whole family that I can turn to (family, church people and friends) and these aren’t people who are just going to tell me that my faith is low because I’m in secret sin or that It’s a spiritual attack so get over it. These are people that have been placed in my life to listen not answer but to understand, people that won’t leave me to deal with my burdens alone and people who have grown into my family. I also have go to bible versus in my phone and one or two motivational posters, I listen to Gospel music and I also remember what God has brought me through so far. So, when Dramatherapy is jarring¬†or feels like ‘too much’ I simply give it to God, point blank hahaaa! which means I pray it out, cry it out, scream it out or simply write it out.

I really hope this blog post helps at least one of you reading, please share it and don’t hesitate to contact me on twitter, instagram¬†or privately via email (itshermelanin@outlook.com), see you next week Queens and Kings…

Peace and love TishaJayy xxx

If you would like more info:

Dramatherapy

Faith

DISCLAIMER: opinions expressed are of the content creator and are not intended to offend, convert or trigger.

What it do 2017?

Hey my beautiful Queens and kings,

What it do?! How’s your 2017 going so far? Not enjoying the gloomy January we’ve just had? (UK) Welp, Me neither! I don’t know about you but I’ve decided not to start my 2017 until February! but before we get into all that I’m going to answer the question that I know some of you shade throwers are asking…

Why has she called this blog post ‘Episode’? Grab some ginger beer and I will tell you. An episode is ‘an incident in the course of a series of events, in a person’s life or experience’, this means that each one of these blog posts or episodes are going to be an event, an experience from my life as a student Drama therapist and born again christian, got it? cool. Now that thats over with let’s start on why I’ve postponed my 2017…

After taste…

To me, January always feels like the after taste of the previous year, why you ask? well keep sipping that ginger beer and get comfy. So imagine you just had a double cheese burger, tastes good right? you added ketchup and took out the pickles so you know it’s lit! Now imagine the burp and don’t pretend you’re too nice to know what I’m talking about. Now imagine the extra pounds you put on and now I want you to imagine if you did not have that burger! No nasty burp and no extra pounds! well in December I’m always rushing around, always stressing and forever eating and eating and EATING!!! This makes my January lazy, burdensome and to put it bluntly dead, so to get over all of those feelings I use January as the time to revitalise myself; I set goals for the year, sort out any loose ends and realign my relationship with God (the last one is new).This means that by mid January I’m ready for my year and more importantly excited to spring board into the new year! Maybe next year you should give it a try.

Looking back… ¬†

2016 was a roller coaster, actually compared to my 2015 it was literally a God send. I got baptized, I started my journey as a Drama therapist and also re-found myself. The re-finding myself is constantly a working progress as everyday I change and evolve but now it’s met with happiness rather than fear. Don’t get me wrong I’ve made a lot of mistakes in 2016 but I’m cool with the mistakes after all I’m a working progress. Hold up I’m going to grab my journal and see how far I’ve come….

Okay I’m back …I don’t usually say this but OMG! Y’all ain’t reading this isshh but let me tell you it’s juicy HA! Shade throwers its not that type of juicy but still juicy. Things that I will share with you are:

  1. I have literally filtered out all of the people who either I was toxic with (arguments and all that good stuff) or the people who have the ‘potential’ to be great but had toxic behaviours… oh the irony.
  2. My opinions on marriage, sex and identity have drastically changed, if you just cringed at the fact that I dared to mention sex on this blog, it ain’t for you bruh!
  3. I’m actually learning to sit with the emotions and experiences I go through (positive or negative) rather than be uncomfortable with them.
  4. My 22nd year of my life that I’m in… is the year of fine tuning.

Looking forward…

I’ve decided that 2017 is my year to level-up, do you remember when you’d face the bad guy in Mario? yeah well each year until I’m 30 I promise to level-up to the next baddie and start a new project for ‘It’sHerMelanin’…My goals:

  1. Build relationships Р with God, God-babbies, family, friends who are practically family and future hubby (where art thou?)
  2. Excel- ItsHerMelanin( you my legacy), fitness and don’t ask who I want to look good for? because my answer will be Tisha der! P.s I’m Tisha.
  3. Travel – this year I want to go Amsterdam and Paris for sure and if that means solo travel then so be it! I also want a big holiday in the sumer after my birthday so God willing.

There’s one more but I’m not about to boast and make a false idol of something, so watch this space yo!

No part time ting!

You shade throwers will be rolling your eyes and flicking that 18inch brazillian like ‘whatever girl’ but nah I’ve promised God and myself that I will level up! So there is no going back for me, plus I got one life on this earth and I need to take advantage of it!

Your turn…

Set your goals, ¬†be happy and enjoy the journey, let’s level-up this 2017 together.

peace and love Tisha Jayy xx