Journaling – Personal Therapy

Hey Queens and Kings,

I hope the vulnerability of last weeks post enabled you guys to see me in a different light and I hope it was an inspiring testimony on how personal therapy and my faith has helped me. This week I’m going to blog about something that may seem cliche, childish or even too time consuming but also something that I have done and still do, okay I will get to the point….. I’m talking about Journaling.


Yes really guys, It does not have to be a bright pink, fluffy, diamond incrusted Journal. It just has to be something you can write in without the fear of it being seen by others… so in other words It’s for yours and Gods eyes ONLY. A place for you to express how you are feeling in a safe and not so public way. I can hear you asking well how is this going to help me ? and more importantly how do I  even start?

 Getting started!

  1. Go and buy yourself a journal, personally I would buy a new one and not one you just have lying around because to me it represents a new start.
  2. Don’t think about it too much. If you are really stuck start with three things you are thankful for or three things you wish were different about today.
  3. Try to write at least once a week.

How is this going to help?

Well bare with me but I’m going to use the bible as a comparison. So the bible is a timeless collection of scriptures that to me is a testimony of the power of God, like I said bare with me. Even though your Journal is nowhere as important than the bible, it should be something that is still very important to you. Important but why? your journal will (overtime) as you continue to write be a testimony to how important the transformative process of journaling is/was to you. You will be able to look back at what you have written and see how much you have developed as a person, it will become almost a guide to getting to know yourself again and (when you are feeling down) a reassurance that you will get through the tough times.

Now this part of the blog post is for my born again Christians and those who are simply interested in christianity and the ways in which it can help you. At the moment I’m studying ‘The Whole Armour of God’ (boy do we all need it), I looked at:

Eph 6:12 ‘For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places.’

But how does this relate back to my journaling?

I related this back to my journaling because I viewed my Journal entries as prayers. I write as if I’m talking to God, as if I’m praying …I’m telling God about my day, giving thanks sometimes and even crying out to him. This naturally leads me to find comfort and strength in my bible, Which (the scriptures) becomes apart my armour against the enemy when I feel myself losing shalom. I hope you are getting the connection I am trying to make between God/bible and Journaling as gateway to building up your Armour.

God bless

Love and peace Tisha Jayy xxx


Staying in shalom -Personal Therapy

Hey Queens and Kings,

I hope all is going well and you enjoyed the few days we had of sunshine (back to the rain). The last time I posted on my blog I was talking about guarding your peace and I mentioned staying in Shalom. So just to recap staying in Shalom is a frame of mind, imagine still water. When a stone gets thrown in still water it unsettles it for a moment but as soon as that moment is over the water remains still…get it? Basically staying in Shalom is an active process that I believe we should do in order to better control how our mental health affects us. So if you haven’t already guessed the next four/five posts will be about ‘Personal therapy’, processes/frame works you can follow in order to help when mental issues get a bit too much.

Wow… Mental health?! 

Some of you will be like hold up? I came hear to get the good word and Tisha is talking about Mental health…..She’s putting things in my head. Let me stop you there! Just incase you didn’t see the Youtube videos this channel is a page that aims to promote positive mental health with the good word alongside. Having struggled with my own mental health I feel like its my duty to spread anything I can that may help you guys personally or help you guys help someone you know. Now mental health as whole is a topic nobody seems comfortable with acknowledging, it’s that one eyed puppy left in the kennel; we know it exists but we don’t like to give it attention. I know this is factual when talking about some Black communities and Women it’s either we don’t like talking about it or we our mental health is not taken seriously… but those two topics are for another time and separate blog posts.

Let’s get a little personal and real!

I suffer from mental health issues …SHOCK…HORROR…CALL THE CRAZY POPO…serious Tisha serious. I suffer from having low points (everyone does to an extent), similar to depression but by my description not as severe and I also suffer from social anxiety; I don’t like big crowds or new people (writing about it is a weird feeling for me but hey). If you are family/friends or even somebody that I work with you may be thinking ‘Tisha? really not the Tisha I know’, well i’m sorry to burst your unrealistic bubble but yes the Tisha you know. The reason why i’ve not really told people is because I studied drama at secondary school, college and university this helped me to mask all the rubbish I was feeling, I mean sometimes I just couldn’t function but I quickly learnt how to manage those moments. I recognize my triggers and know when i’m falling into my low points/ when the social anxiety is getting a bit too much and so know what I can do to fight those MOFOS. Though my first point of call even before I was saved was my bible; simply because I found it comforting and it always without fail helped to calm me down or lift my spirits.

My personal mental health is also the reason why I want to become a drama therapist as drama helped me and so many people that I know and even a few people that I work alongside. I have to say that I am one of the lucky people who suffer from mental health (sounds crazy but bare with me), some people who suffer from mental health issues do not have support from friends and family and even though most of my family and friends don’t know about my mental health issues they are still such an amazing support system form me.

How I stay in Shalom….or stay level headed when things get a bit much.

Escape from the city or simply go where there is nuff green tings aha! So when my head feels heavy and i need to clear my mind I will walk and put my headphones. I also learnt how to just not think about anything during these walks/escapes.

Though this time I took it to the extreme and went on a mini trek through Bradgate park.

It was beautiful, peaceful and the company was not bad either.

When you learn the power of not thinking of anything, the big things become micro. – TishaJayy

Love and Peace Tisha Jayy xxx

Perception of Self- Guarding your Peace.

Hey Queens and my Kings,

 It has been a few weeks (Sorry) since we last met on this wonderful yet addictive social media world. I hope you’ve been good and this week has been productive in whatever season of you’re life you are in now. I was sitting in church on Sunday and Pastor was preaching some home truths (as always) that I had to share with my ‘It’sHerMelanin’ family. The word was about not letting external issues/people/situations unsettle you internally, not giving things more power than they need. In other words not feeding the fire with more gasoline.

 Before we get into this topic I want to say I am extending last months topic on for this post because I believe God wanted me to share the message I heard on sunday. Okay lets do this….

what do you mean by my peace?

When I talk about guarding your peace I am talking about the very thing that keeps you level headed, that state of mind, body and spirit that aligns you with the characteristics God wants us to have as his children. To love one another, to love unconditionally, to practice peace rather than destruction and know how to respect ourselves because of the God justified confidence we should have and thats just to name a few.

The war inside

You know them moments when something really gets you vex (mad) and you’re debating whether you should be plain cruel and cuss two bad words or whether you should be Gods child and smile and walk away? This is one example of the war inside, the other example is to do with faith and whether you have any or not. With all the injustices going on around the world it would be so easy to lose faith in Gods plan, but God knows why what’s happening is happening and so he will see us through as he sees fit. In John 14:1 after Jesus predicts Peter’s denial he say’s ‘Let not your heart be troubled; you believe in God, believe also in me’, this is Jesus saying bad times are going to have to happen in order for the good times to come and they will not compare, do not worry just have faith and all will be well. This is something that we have to practice today as Christians …have FAITH no matter how bad the circumstance may seem (or how vex you get).

Staying in shalom

Most of us know Shalom as a greeting or a well wishing but the way my Pastor explained it was that it was a state of mind and state of being that Christians should be encouraged to keep.

‘keep your heart with all diligence, For out of it spring the issues of life’     -Proverbs 4:23

Shalom means to always be at peace, always protect your peace and never be quick to anger. This was something that really stuck with me because whilst there are people/things that will test our peace we must always be in control of how we react.

Now this weeks post is short and sweet but I do hope this weeks post was helpful to you guys.

Peace and love TishaJayy